What are the steps before having a Pawo/Khandro or a God/Goddess intimate relationship?
First we have a love relationship like most people where the relationship is based on diverse form of attachments, desires, co dependencies where the polarity of dark/light, feminine/masculine is not well understood and even deformed. Such a relationship can create much karma and suffering.
Second, the individual man or woman decides that is enough, they must go beyond, Love is greater than that. At this point they decide to go inward and gain more knowledge about both of their inner polarities like their light and shadow, the Man and the Woman in them, the Yin and the Yang. They discover how those polarities dance and interact within and how it affects their surrounding life. Through this process they discover what is their true nature that is pure Awake Love Presence that radiates from within.
At this point you become a Pawo or a Khandro, a God or a Goddess.
Third, you can go beyond by allowing yourself to share this Sacred Intimacy with a partner that has also realized the second step. It is a long way to arrive at this point but what you can share in such relationship is beyond words.
The teachings of Clear Light Tantra are there to guide you during each step by generating the experiences that bring knowledge of who you are and function.